11/365 Why are failed first dates so relieving? Does it get you one step closer to meeting the one meant for you? Initially, before you have even gone on the first date you are nervous. Within the first 5 minutes you know if you see a connection or not. By the end of the date you have decided whether you are giving them a second chance. Should we write people off so quickly on the first date? Or should you give them a second chance and blame it on first date nerves? Is there

10/365  A personal reflection on slowing down, living more presently, and finding small moments of joy in your twenties.  Some posts hit you at the right moment, even if they’re saying something you’ve heard a hundred times before. A post that has been circulating on Instagram that made its way into my field of vision had me thinking about a present-versus-future mindset. The sentiment wasn’t exactly new but given the life stage my friends and I are in, I thought it deserved

Why waiting until New Year’s Eve is the worst planning mistake — plus 4 easy ways to prep your resolutions early. 9/365 Some might say it’s a bit early to start thinking about New Year’s resolutions, but honestly — if I’ve learned anything this year, it’s that winging it is not a sustainable strategy. Planning properly for the things you want to execute is an absolute must (and nope, simply “manifesting” doesn’t count as a plan).  Have you ever visualised something so extens

8/365 Sticking to writing and uploading a blog post each day has been easier than I thought. I know it’s only day 8, but we’re claiming this as a win. Things feel weirdly positive now — which definitely wasn’t the case on days 1–6 when self-doubt had me in a chokehold. But here we are: day 8, and it feels like part of my routine. Something I need to do, otherwise my brain won’t let me sleep in peace.  So, in the spirit of unsolicited advice (the tone of my blog), here’s my

7/365 It has almost been a week since I decided to climb out of my rut. Things have actually been going pretty well. I’ve kept up my daily 40-minute walks (still not sure why it’s 40 minutes specifically, but it’s working), I’m sleeping better, I’m eating my healthy prepped lunches, and I’m hydrating. So far, I’m doing well with The Three Pillars of Not Spiralling Completely™ (refer to Day 2 if you’re unsure what these are). Despite feeling much better, the self-loathing hasn

6/365  Why is it so easy to doubt ourselves? And why is it so hard to stop? (Why are our brains so committed to being dramatic?)  Interestingly, self-doubt is seen as a by product of an evolutionary tendency known as negative bias . Our brains have been wired to constantly scan for potential threats as a way for survival. As we’ve evolved, these threats have shifted from predator-versus-prey in the wilderness (for the purpose of this explanation, we are the prey), to things

5/365 Can you really judge whether you’ll have a connection with someone within the first few seconds of meeting them? Short answer: yes. Long answer: also yes, but with more overthinking.  A friend of mine — let’s call her Liz — recently went on a first date with someone she met on a dating app. She wasn’t overly excited after their first few conversations over text, but she decided to give it a chance. (Was that her first mistake? Hard to say. You can only get so much perso

4/365 How do we know if we have space in our lives for another person or how do we make the space for one more person?   I know for many of us the end goal is to find our life partners, but how do we know if we are ready for it? Lately I have been picturing how my life would look if I were to make room for another person. Part of me has been unsettled by the thought. If you have also felt this, does it simply mean we are not ready for someone? Or do we need to acknowledge tha

3/365 Why is coming up with a plan so tricky at times? It’s so easy to picture your dream life — the 5, 10, 15-year “future me is thriving” montage. But the second someone says, “Okay… but how are you getting there?”  the brain just flatlines. So, how do we combat this? Firstly, if this is something you struggle with, having some context around planning as a skill might help you feel better about it. Planning is a core executive function (which sounds very serious and adult,

2/365  I figured I should start this post by giving a bit more context to yesterday’s word-vomit. It’s surprisingly easy to start a domino effect when one thing in your life isn’t going well. That’s what happened to me last week, I got sick. Then I had too much time in bed with my own thoughts, and suddenly every part of my life felt up for questioning.  My career — is it actually challenging, or should I be doing something more exciting, like starting a business?  My dating

I’ve caught myself in the middle of a rut, this is day 6 of it on a Wednesday evening at 6:14pm. I was lying in bed and caught myself. Everything felt uncomfortable; my back from laying sideways, numbness in my arm from holding up my phone, my thumb stiff from scrolling, my eyes sore from the contrasting light on my phone, and a headache from half-heartedly allowing thoughts in and out. I wonder how long it’ll take to come out of this rut if I start trying from now at 6:17pm.